We are in a season where God is doing something new in the earth.
Anger, resentment and bitterness go together, causing hardness of heart. This usually causes the person to become controlling, sometimes in the most subtle ways of manipulation and intimidation. Because this becomes their way to stay "in charge" so that things do not go "wrong", they often wouldn't admit to being controlling.
Sometimes hidden anger and resentment surface in the form of sarcastic jokes or cynicism, but if you listen closely to what comes out of your mouth, you will recognize it. Be careful not to brush it off, but take it to the Holy Spirit, asking Him to uproot it and to heal you.
When confrontation does come in a relationship, they will either withdraw in non-communication (still-stupor) or become aggressive.
Anger can be very "hidden" and "masked" by causing the person to turn inward.
Symptoms are: Withdrawal, passivity, lethargy; sometimes depression (out of a feeling of helplessness).
A person suffering form "masked" anger will not easily trust another's motives, often comparing themselves to others (finding themselves falling short), be judgmental and critical, go into isolation, feeling that they don't belong or fit in and that nobody loves them. They live behind masks of fake friendliness (a show of godliness without power), but inwardly they are unhappy and unfulfilled, living with an evil eye of suspicion towards others and distant from God.
a) Losing a loved one through death, betrayal, abandonment or divorce or being abandoned by a parent or loved one
i) Having been falsely accused of something they didn't do, suffering injustice through wrong assessment of a situation.
i j) A person living under pressure to perform will in time resent those who put them under pressure - be it parents, your boss or even your spouse. Rebellion will result.
j k) Sometimes people live under condemnation for some sin they have committed, being angry at themselves, feeling like a failure. Jesus paid the price for all sin by dying for us, shedding His holy sinless blood for us on the cross. By receiving His forgiveness by faith through repentance, we can forgive ourselves fully - no longer be in the prison house of the enemy.
k l) Having been disappointed in and by others - not having their expectations fulfilled.
Anger and frustration because of financial struggles can actually block your breakthrough into abundance, because of constant focus on the issue of lack (and having resentment either against someone or indirectly against God).
Murmuring and complaining is often the result of lack, which takes you out of the blessing of God because we forget to be thankful for the blessings we do have.
Forgiveness is the key that will unlock your healing and your freedom and even though it seems at times to be the most difficult thing to do, we need to ask the help of the Holy Spirit to bring us pass this obstacle.
Go through the process of forgiveness and repentance, releasing those around you from having to fulfill your expectations. Release every issue of hurt in your life to the Lord and know that the Blood of Jesus will heal you and set you free. Also remember to forgive yourself, embracing love!
Now put your trust in God and give Him full control of every facet of your life and those of your loved ones. In short: Surrender all!
If you still have trouble with anger, feel free to contact me via e-mail.
DECLARATIONS: It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.
I have been crucified with Christ [that is, in Him I have shared His crucifixion]; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body I live by faith [by adhering to, relying on, and completely trusting] in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me." Gal.2:20 Amplified Bible.